How to Cope with a Diva

I’ve been writing this blog for two plus years now and I hope you have been enjoying it. Besides this main page, there are MYSTERY BLOGGERS (pull down the categories from the menu above) who are all celebrity personal assistants. They write about their every day experiences. Some are funny, some are sad, some are frustrated!

I am also the columnist, MISS KNOW IT ALL, and post her letters and answers. Check her out. Ask her a question!!

And I send the free DIVA NEWS e-zine out once or twice a month.

This is all well and good, but you may be asking yourself: HOW DO I COPE WITH THE DIVAS IN MY LIFE? Keep reading!

I think Divas get a bad rap. They are, on some level, important. I think they can often be the catalyst to get things done in the world. That said, I know it’s tough to cope if you have to deal with a diva. Of course, I think my book is the best way to get some sound advice and use the LARK method to handle a diva, but here’s the shorthand version:

1.  Do you really want to work or be around the diva in question? Do you really have to be there? I can’t tell you how many celebrity assistants I use to know (before they took my advice) who hated their jobs and their boss. The key is to look at what is keeping you in a toxic environment. You really can get out and start fresh with a boss (or spouse or whatever diva it is) if you want to. Taking the first step is the hardest.  Once you move forward with clear goals you can do anything. Taking the step (and stopping whining) is the key.

2. Make a wish list. It’s the holidays! Ask Santa for what you want. Just kidding, but do put down in writing what you’re looking for. Talk about what you DO want, not what you DON’T want.

3. Use the LARK method:

L: listen to what you are saying. Are you always bitching about your life and your diva? Well STOP IT!

A: ask for what you want and accept that you deserve it. This is the biggest obstacle to anyone doing ANYTHING in their life. Being afraid to ask and feeling you’re not good enough. You are good enough.

R: relax. Take a break. Do something other than work all day and night and have no time for YOU.

K: kick old habits. Try something new, like stopping smoking or a new hobby, or whatever. Also keep on trucking. Keep moving forward!

These are just a few suggestions. Rome wasn’t built in a day. But if you keep your eye on the prize (moving away, getting a new job, having the boss put you in the will) you CAN make it happen.

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