I Choose to be Happy

For me, I’m happy most of the time. Call me a cockeyed optimist. I really am, and, those of you who know me well know this to be true. I find myself smiling most of the time.

Other people’s successes make me smile. My cat makes me smile. The fact that I have a roof over my head and food on the table makes me happy. The ocean, the forests, the mountains make me happy. Kindness does, too. You may have noticed, however, that many people not only are not happy but they can’t wait to share that misery with you. Don’t let them! You may be thinking this approach is not very kind. I’m not  suggesting you cross the street the next time you see them, but you do need to stand up for your own happiness.

When they start with the latest horror story ask them what they are grateful for in their lives right now. People who whine a lot may’ve never taken a moment to look at life that way. It’s an important question for all of us to address.

     Are you a person who sees the worst in any situation Optimist-Pessimst-Wine-Glasses_03F75FF0(can you say doomsday predictions?) or do you see that glass half full (it could be worse, it’s actually not that bad). The way you see your world makes all the difference in how that world sees and interacts with you. Why not choose to be happy? 

We all need tools to navigate this crazy world. Here’s a little chart to help:


So change something. It can be as small as cutting your hair, wearing a cheerful color, cleaning your closets! Seriously! Clearing away the cobwebs really helps. Take a walk. Call a friend. Read an uplifting book or see a funny movie. Just do it. You’re worth it!


Happiness is celebrating another year on the planet. Happy birthday to me today.  🍾

Miss Know It All

Dear Miss Know-It-All,

            I know people write you because they’re unhappy with their jobs, but I actually like mine! My real question is, why don’t I have enough time to write that novel? It seems by the time I’m done with work, it’s all I can do to eat some dinner and go to bed.

            Crunched for Time

Dear Crunched,

            First of all, congratulations on enjoying your job. I like mine too! My guess is, because you like what you’re doing, you gladly put in long hours or go the extra mile for your boss. It appears you don’t have time for anything else but that’s just an illusion—honest. Here’s the real question to ask yourself: am I as passionate about writing that novel as I am about my day job? It’s my experience that people with a passion about something find time to make it a part of their lives. So, are you willing to get up an hour early every day and sit in front of the computer, typewriter, or just a paper and pencil and write something?

            For people with a passion, their passion is often their way of Relaxing. The L.A.R.K. method uses relaxation as a needed break to nourish your body, mind, and soul. If writing is your passionate relaxation, you’ll feel inspired to work on your novel and it won’t feel like work at all.

            Years ago, I worked for the president of a major company. In his spare time, he’d written a highly successful novel, so he continued to get up at 5:00 a.m. every day without fail to write something on that paper before coming into work. Writing was his passion. Try this and let me know how things turn out for you.

            Say every day: There is plenty of time to get it done.

            Miss Know-It-All