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This Week’s Message

This is worth a try….

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Miss Know It All

Dear Miss Know It All,MKIA

How do I ask for help at work or get listened to? Not sure I’ll be heard.

Feeling Out of It

Dear Feeling,

The first step in the L.A.R.K. method is for YOU to listen, and the   second step is to ask for and accept that you deserve what you want. This step is more difficult for most people than the listening exercise. Asking for what we want from our bosses (or lovers, or families, or mechanics) is a big step for many of us.

If we pick our moments and don’t rehash the past or act out of resentment or resignation, we can ask for what we want and actually get it. I’ve done it, and the ceiling didn’t cave in on top of me. Like anything else, it just takes practice. We’ve spent so many years practicing being disappointed that it just takes a few times of being told yes before we start to believe we can have what we want. It really is that simple.

Here’s an example:
Assistant: “I’d like to talk to you about scheduling my vacation time this fall.”
Boss: “I’m too busy right now. Just send me an e-mail.”
Assistant: “I’ll follow up with an e-mail so we have it in writing. And I’d like to confirm with you now that taking the week of October 6th off is all right.”
Boss: “I’m going to be on Fallon that week, right?”
Assistant: “Yes, Fallon’s people have confirmed, and I’ve already got your travel arrangements made. I need to make my own reservations so can you give me an okay on my days off?”
Boss: “As long as my stuff is set, that’s fine.”
Assistant: “Great! I’ll follow up with you by e-mail and make sure you have everything you need before I leave the office on the fifth.”

I knew an assistant who literally had to stand up every day to eat her lunch. She didn’t have a real lunch break! She sorted the daily mail in mail slots (she worked on a large estate), and the only time she was “allowed” to eat was for that half hour while she sorted the mail. Asking to have a lunch break was too scary a thought for her, so she never did. I think she was in that job for five years before she finally left—that’s a lot of lunches. Was it worth it?

Be bold. Ask for what you want!

Miss Know It All

Oct
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7 Qs to Ask Yourself about your Life Purpose

I found this article interesting and fun and deep. Don’t be put off by the “bad” language.Life-Purpose-2013

 

SEVEN QUESTIONS

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This Week’s Message

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“If one door closes, I will bust it down if I really want it.”

Sep
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Miss Know It All

Dear Miss Know It All,MKIA

My boss has a new significant other that is driving me crazy. How do you handle someone coming into my space, where once there were two (just me and the boss) now there are three.

Three’s A Crowd

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Sep
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This Week’s Message

 “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.

― Henry Ford

Sep