Do You Know How To Relax?

I assume you read my blog because you’re already in the personal assistant work force or work in a high level capacity for high powered individuals. I know what that environment can be like! On one hand, we often get perks for working the long hours (perhaps even nights and weekends) and those free cell phones, swag, after parties, meeting other celebrities…are what keeps us coming back day after day. On the other hand, we are stressed out!!

I surmise that taking time to relax is something many of us rarely take time to do. NOTE: I don’t count drinking  heavily after work as a relaxation technique. Sorry.

Since summer is upon us, I thought it would be good to talk about ways to stop and smell the surf and sand. (Does that sound right?)


 1.  Take a few minutes at least once a week to drive to the local beach, and put your feet in the sand; or better yet, in the water. Yes, I know I live on the left coast so this may not be doable where you live. Improvise!

2.   Get up 15 minutes early in the morning and take a walk in your local neighborhood. It is cheaper than going to the local gym that you never actually go to. Of course,  if you really are paying for a gym membership, it goes without saying: USE IT!

3. Turn off your smart phone, lap top, landline (do people still use those?), the TV and: READ A BOOK. Or do a crossword puzzle. If you can’t handle not being plugged in for too long, set a timer. 🙂

4. Go to lunch or dinner. No really, I mean it; don’t eat at your desk or in your car. Actually make a date with someone. Human contact not directly involved with work would be good. if that’s not possible, go to eat with someone anyway. Baby steps.

5. If you have the guts, here’s my final recommendation: Take — GASP — TIME OFF!  Actually take a few days off from work and make sure you’re gone far enough away that it would take at least 12 hours for you to get back in town — that’s just far enough away for you to feel you can actually exhale.

Oh that’s a good one!! EXHALE! Taking a  moment during your day to take a deep breath and to slow exhale (3 times in a row) does wonders for your mental and physical health. Ahh.


I Choose to be Happy

For me, I’m happy most of the time. Call me a cockeyed optimist. I really am, and, those of you who know me well know this to be true. I find myself smiling most of the time.

Other people’s successes make me smile. My cat makes me smile. The fact that I have a roof over my head and food on the table makes me happy. The ocean, the forests, the mountains make me happy. Kindness does, too. You may have noticed, however, that many people not only are not happy but they can’t wait to share that misery with you. Don’t let them! You may be thinking this approach is not very kind. I’m not  suggesting you cross the street the next time you see them, but you do need to stand up for your own happiness.

When they start with the latest horror story ask them what they are grateful for in their lives right now. People who whine a lot may’ve never taken a moment to look at life that way. It’s an important question for all of us to address.

     Are you a person who sees the worst in any situation Optimist-Pessimst-Wine-Glasses_03F75FF0(can you say doomsday predictions?) or do you see that glass half full (it could be worse, it’s actually not that bad). The way you see your world makes all the difference in how that world sees and interacts with you. Why not choose to be happy? 

We all need tools to navigate this crazy world. Here’s a little chart to help:


So change something. It can be as small as cutting your hair, wearing a cheerful color, cleaning your closets! Seriously! Clearing away the cobwebs really helps. Take a walk. Call a friend. Read an uplifting book or see a funny movie. Just do it. You’re worth it!


Happiness is celebrating another year on the planet. Happy birthday to me today.  🍾